"Do not listen with the intent to reply,
but with the intent to understand."
Why do we bargain with the people earning the least in our country?
I just don't get it.
You're willing to pay a big amount at a branded store, being well aware that the price isn't worth the product... but you will still continue to tell the vegetable/fruit vendor and rickshaw driver to charge you five rupees less.
#ComeOn!
"There's a physical connection you can draw between how often you have to sharpen your pencil and how much work you've done."
- Caroline Weaver
A painkiller for an adult is like a toy to a crying baby #simile
The pain hasn't gone anywhere but your brain's been informed that it has apparently; the child's hiccups are still making him/her uneasy, but the sound and movement of the toy gets his/her mind off it and works pretty well as a distraction!
Introverts are introverts for a reason and they should never be forced to speak/share too much..
Because they are who they are for a reason!
It's just so sad that our hypocritical society isn't accepting of that nature
Why is everyone constantly stuck on attempting to change one another?
Why? Live and let live?
"It takes years as a woman to unlearn what you have been taught to be sorry for."
I am a firm believer of the fact that karma will find its way back to you (!)
Electricity and the wait for it, when Nani watches katha every evening on TV
#LittleThings
Thai noodles soup and crispy mushrooms with a friend, and a short drive after that whilst discussing the general siyapaas that tend to exist in the life of a twenty five year old female in our society :)
"You can't change someone who doesn't see an issue in their actions."
One amongst many making a mountain out of a molehill about pretty much every thing
Sad emotions are okay around you as long as you're in your bubble
Zero empathy, let alone compassion
Money servants money servants money servants
~ stories of some...
I personally don't even like the term 'servant'
I mean, no one is your slave, so stop treating someone like one!
But ofcourse in our country, they wouldn't say domestic help/helpers... just like they don't say homemaker and instead choose to say housewife
Why is it that people don't give enough attention to the words being used by them!?
A child's thoughts must always be cultivated in the right manner
Of course, the 'right' depends on the parent defining it for the child
"I stopped explaining myself when I realised that people only understand from their level of perception."
In life, you'll come across all sorts of challenges...
Depends on you what you're willing to put at stake for each of them.
The journey will take you places
It'll make you say why me?
How hard is it to let it be and let one be and not hurt that person by saying something you already have, again and again?
Oh it hurts me sometimes to see how people behave with their siblings and children
You meet people, you judge them, you make rigid decisions
Is that how it's supposed to be?
Ofcourse not!
But if there's anything I've learned lately, it's that, whoever is not empathetic will never feel the pain. They are just like that. Detached and insensitive.
"There is something hugely civilised about allowing long pauses in a conversation. Very few people can stand that kind of silence."
The society we live in ~
No matter how the people are in a family, there is always differentiation done between siblings, between a son and a daughter
It amazes me how human beings are still unaware of karma's role in life
It's just so sad that the essence of life is lost around
Not many care about what is to be cared about
People just want to talk about people
It's all become about storing everything in your phone's gallery and not going back to see it
Gut feelings aren't believed by most of us
You're called crazy if you want to follow your heart, because ofcourse money and servants should be the ultimate goal
It's tragic to see most thoughts only going in this direction
"Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another's world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding."
- Bill Bullard
Financial independence isn't a concept that is encouraged
But finding a rich husband is more than welcome!
(yes, it's as sickening as it sounds)
People marry for money and they also believe and think that everyone else must do the same!
"Confidence must be monitored so that it does not spoil or rot and turn to arrogance."
When things start to fall in place, it'll almost feel unbelievably strange
But then again, the universe does have its ways of working things out for you :)
"Artists are people driven by the tension between the desire to communicate and the desire to hide."
Wake Up - Three Days Grace
~ sung by a friend with passion..
yes, I'm promoting his cover/channel shamelessly :)
#musician
"Never be envious of what someone else has. You don't know the price they paid to get it, and you don't know the price they are paying to keep it."
You want something I would never even think of wanting. I want something you don't want. Fair enough. Keep your choice with yourself and let me keep mine with me. I absolutely fail to understand (as always) as to why validation is necessary or even important! Why?
I'm not putting my nose in your life and passing opinions, you shouldn't either!
"Astrology is a great excuse to blame planets for your incompetence."
Neerja Bhanot ~ what an inspiration!
I haven't seen the movie but the story is extraordinary and so was she :)
"You haven't truly given until you have given till it hurts."
What do you think you should do? ~ A mother questioning her eleven year old in different situations, in an attempt to ensure that the child uses his/her own mind to think and isn't just instructed what to do instead
#GoodParenting
"You never really understand a person until you consider things from his/her point of view, until you climb inside of his/her skin and walk around in it." - Atticus Finch
~ something I've always said and believed in
... I was genuinely surprised to know that it's a quote from one of the books that has been on my list; To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee
I've only added the 'her' as I do not like the male being the obvious gender even in a quotation
Before Sunrise
Serendipity
Before Sunset
#movies
"The heart has its reasons, and they aren't debate topics."
I'm aware that this post was supposed to be about Make A Difference but one more meeting with the kids is needed for me to be able to sum it up precisely :)
Take Yours, I'll Take Mine - Matthew Mole
Fall - Meera Shenoy
Boy With A Coin - Iron and Wine
The Cave - Mumford and Sons
#music
"Whenever you feel like criticising anyone," he told me, "just remember that all the people in this world haven't had the advantages that you've had." - F. Scott Fitzgerald
Saturday, April 16, 2016
Friday, January 15, 2016
The magic is in the mess
"It is an ancient need to be told stories. But the story needs a great storyteller." - Alan Rickman
#Always
It's one thing to have priorities clear,
it's another to know how different yours are from the selfless people
I consider myself fortunate that I've had the opportunity to meet some fantastic people in my life so far already
You have to be brutally honest only with those who understand honesty!
You have to colour your words with the rest.
- said to me by a very wise fifty-six-year-old independent woman living life on her own terms :)
Look around! Learn a little (even when there is a lot to) from those who're doing it without what you have! Seriously!
When you attend one of the simplest weddings ever
No showoff culture equals no punjabis criticising the food/arrangements/clothes/people's dress sense and more
When there really was so much happiness in the air that one could sense the good vibe with smiling faces all around you
Love marriages are always about struggle, aren't they?
This one could've helped an individual grow one's faith exceptionally though
The definition of travelling is so messed up in our culture/society
Staying in the five star hotels and eating food from restaurants present all across the world
Really? What did you learn? That it's all the same everywhere?
You could do that in your own city and not look outside the window of the hotel room. Haha!
[It's like someone gifting you an electronic gadget on a particular occasion, and in your head you're like; it could've been bought at any point of time after saving up enough; you didn't manufacture it, did you? So what was your (not the money's) effort in it? Yes, I'm weird.]
We don't know our own country well but we love to comment on it every now and then
Trying the local cuisines, using the public transport, exploring an area, that's what it's supposed to be all about!
And,
I have to mention this;
My friend, who is now a mother to a nine months old,
inspires me with her take on motherhood!
She is a rare example in this generation for those of us who haven't walked on her path yet.
And because it kills me a little every single time I see people around me confident that there is nothing that they could possibly learn of/from...
She is the complete opposite of that :)
Life can be as messed up as you make it.
You'll be surrounded by people at one point, and feel like there isn't a single person who's like you and then you'd have one person miles away understanding that there's something not right, just by the punctuation used in your sentences.
You're making fun of someone and you don't mean to hurt that person at all? Fair enough. Keep that person's nature in mind before doing anything. Things that don't hurt you, won't hurt them either : is the worst assumption ever. You don't know that what you're saying or doing would or wouldn't hurt them. I just fail to understand why people keep taking others around them for granted.
You have to keep your freaking equation right with some people, because you're stuck there, and for that, you have to be fake
One of the most difficult things for me to do
Why do we humans complicate everything?
Why can't people just get it? You're a certain way for a reason, and you reacted a certain way for a reason (no, the humans who don't think before opening their mouth aren't included in this list)
You want something, you want something
You love someone, you love someone
Since when did it all become about approval and agreeing with each other's opinions?
You are different god dammit. Ofcourse you wouldn't like what I like or who I like.
But why exactly is that important?
The biggest problem with us humans is; one half is seeking for validation, and the other half thinks they must validate it because it's their basic right and they were born to do just that.
There are such few people out there who actually let you be. Whoever you are, and however you are, they let you be. There is no effort needed with these people. No effort to make a conversation, no effort to laugh/smile. It's effortless because you can share silence with them without thinking even for a second that it could be awkward. These are the kind of people who get you. And most times, one doesn't find such people easily. Because you know, it can't be all that easy.
"If you are like most people, then like most people, you don't know you're like most people."
Selfish. That's what we all are.
We want things our way. We discount other's feelings on the account that it's okay to, because we have problems too. Umm, hello.. We all have problems, and unconditional love is too rare, and it doesn't work the way you think it will.
"Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone's lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don't have to compromise convictions to be compassionate."
Whenever you think how messed up life is for you,
always remember that there are people hoping they manage to get past just one more day without any more troubles.
"You should always have an opinion" is the most bizarre statement I've heard!
Mad World - Hardwell
Starlight (Could You Be Mine) - Don Diablo & Matt Nash
Waiting for Love - Avicii
Strong Ones - Armin van Buuren
Young Again - Hardwell
#music
When you've also been blessed enough to have a friend who writes to you like one would to one's diary :)
An eighty-three-year-old lady with more strength than I've seen in most people
When the closest person to her passed away forty years ago
and she also lost a child of hers eventually
She's someone who's really felt loss
And I'm a firm believer of the fact that one has to face real loss in life, to get out of their bubble
Oh yes, we're all in our own bubbles
The ones who have lesser than us tend to give more than us. It's true!
The driver named Vicky, gave away his bag of peanuts to the boy who asked for food at the window of the car..
And even though I wished I'd have had something edible with me (like in Bombay; Gems) on that day, but I didn't and he did.
It is important to keep meeting people who are different from you!
(for your own personal growth in many ways..)
The reason behind that thought is a girl I met, a few months back, someone very ambitious, who told me about a story of a person who lived in the slums of Mumbai and got through the Stanford MBA on one hundred percent scholarship! People like those are the ones setting examples for the rest of us.
HDFC Life Ad Campaign
~ Another wonderful advertisement :)
Because I started working with an NGO recently...
(yes, it is supposed to be 'an' NGO and not 'a' NGO
The articles are used before an abbreviation/word depending on the pronunciation of the first alphabet in that particular word! Phonetically, yes. So, because in this abbreviation, the N is pronounced as enn, which again begins with a vowel, therefore the 'an'. Haha. Yes, let's face it that we've all wondered about this at some point in our lives before.)
Going back to my primary thought,
Because I started working with an NGO recently;
Make A Difference
The experience so far has obviously been enlightening!
My next post will be only about that :)
There's a part of me that can't wait for the next chapter of my life to begin, a part of me that wants to be there for these kids in many ways, for as long as possible, and a part that wants to go away.
Because it is the people of Mumbai who make it Bombay :)
In their Marathi, the sorted!, the obvious vada pav
The food that added to my happiness:
Chicken Tikka roll from Sigdi, Chip Butty from Theobroma, Sardar Pav Bhaji (no, it's not meant for you if you're not a street food person or if you're concerned about your immunity getting disturbed because of all the butter and the utensils used) and the gol gappe from Right Place (Amarsons)
The typical business class families have so much to learn from the middle class. So much!
It just amazes me every single time I see a confident individual around, and most of the times, the confidence is backed by the wealth inherited. Haha. I find that hilarious.
Because good food makes life better!
And so does Chai :)
"Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they're finished."
- Daniel Gilbert
PS- Happy New Year :)
#Always
It's one thing to have priorities clear,
it's another to know how different yours are from the selfless people
I consider myself fortunate that I've had the opportunity to meet some fantastic people in my life so far already
You have to be brutally honest only with those who understand honesty!
You have to colour your words with the rest.
- said to me by a very wise fifty-six-year-old independent woman living life on her own terms :)
Look around! Learn a little (even when there is a lot to) from those who're doing it without what you have! Seriously!
When you attend one of the simplest weddings ever
No showoff culture equals no punjabis criticising the food/arrangements/clothes/people's dress sense and more
When there really was so much happiness in the air that one could sense the good vibe with smiling faces all around you
Love marriages are always about struggle, aren't they?
This one could've helped an individual grow one's faith exceptionally though
The definition of travelling is so messed up in our culture/society
Staying in the five star hotels and eating food from restaurants present all across the world
Really? What did you learn? That it's all the same everywhere?
You could do that in your own city and not look outside the window of the hotel room. Haha!
[It's like someone gifting you an electronic gadget on a particular occasion, and in your head you're like; it could've been bought at any point of time after saving up enough; you didn't manufacture it, did you? So what was your (not the money's) effort in it? Yes, I'm weird.]
We don't know our own country well but we love to comment on it every now and then
Trying the local cuisines, using the public transport, exploring an area, that's what it's supposed to be all about!
And,
I have to mention this;
My friend, who is now a mother to a nine months old,
inspires me with her take on motherhood!
She is a rare example in this generation for those of us who haven't walked on her path yet.
And because it kills me a little every single time I see people around me confident that there is nothing that they could possibly learn of/from...
She is the complete opposite of that :)
Life can be as messed up as you make it.
You'll be surrounded by people at one point, and feel like there isn't a single person who's like you and then you'd have one person miles away understanding that there's something not right, just by the punctuation used in your sentences.
You're making fun of someone and you don't mean to hurt that person at all? Fair enough. Keep that person's nature in mind before doing anything. Things that don't hurt you, won't hurt them either : is the worst assumption ever. You don't know that what you're saying or doing would or wouldn't hurt them. I just fail to understand why people keep taking others around them for granted.
You have to keep your freaking equation right with some people, because you're stuck there, and for that, you have to be fake
One of the most difficult things for me to do
Why do we humans complicate everything?
Why can't people just get it? You're a certain way for a reason, and you reacted a certain way for a reason (no, the humans who don't think before opening their mouth aren't included in this list)
You want something, you want something
You love someone, you love someone
Since when did it all become about approval and agreeing with each other's opinions?
You are different god dammit. Ofcourse you wouldn't like what I like or who I like.
But why exactly is that important?
The biggest problem with us humans is; one half is seeking for validation, and the other half thinks they must validate it because it's their basic right and they were born to do just that.
There are such few people out there who actually let you be. Whoever you are, and however you are, they let you be. There is no effort needed with these people. No effort to make a conversation, no effort to laugh/smile. It's effortless because you can share silence with them without thinking even for a second that it could be awkward. These are the kind of people who get you. And most times, one doesn't find such people easily. Because you know, it can't be all that easy.
"If you are like most people, then like most people, you don't know you're like most people."
We want things our way. We discount other's feelings on the account that it's okay to, because we have problems too. Umm, hello.. We all have problems, and unconditional love is too rare, and it doesn't work the way you think it will.
"Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone's lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don't have to compromise convictions to be compassionate."
Whenever you think how messed up life is for you,
always remember that there are people hoping they manage to get past just one more day without any more troubles.
"You should always have an opinion" is the most bizarre statement I've heard!
Mad World - Hardwell
Starlight (Could You Be Mine) - Don Diablo & Matt Nash
Waiting for Love - Avicii
Strong Ones - Armin van Buuren
Young Again - Hardwell
#music
When you've also been blessed enough to have a friend who writes to you like one would to one's diary :)
An eighty-three-year-old lady with more strength than I've seen in most people
When the closest person to her passed away forty years ago
and she also lost a child of hers eventually
She's someone who's really felt loss
And I'm a firm believer of the fact that one has to face real loss in life, to get out of their bubble
Oh yes, we're all in our own bubbles
The ones who have lesser than us tend to give more than us. It's true!
The driver named Vicky, gave away his bag of peanuts to the boy who asked for food at the window of the car..
And even though I wished I'd have had something edible with me (like in Bombay; Gems) on that day, but I didn't and he did.
It is important to keep meeting people who are different from you!
(for your own personal growth in many ways..)
The reason behind that thought is a girl I met, a few months back, someone very ambitious, who told me about a story of a person who lived in the slums of Mumbai and got through the Stanford MBA on one hundred percent scholarship! People like those are the ones setting examples for the rest of us.
HDFC Life Ad Campaign
~ Another wonderful advertisement :)
Because I started working with an NGO recently...
(yes, it is supposed to be 'an' NGO and not 'a' NGO
The articles are used before an abbreviation/word depending on the pronunciation of the first alphabet in that particular word! Phonetically, yes. So, because in this abbreviation, the N is pronounced as enn, which again begins with a vowel, therefore the 'an'. Haha. Yes, let's face it that we've all wondered about this at some point in our lives before.)
Going back to my primary thought,
Because I started working with an NGO recently;
Make A Difference
The experience so far has obviously been enlightening!
My next post will be only about that :)
There's a part of me that can't wait for the next chapter of my life to begin, a part of me that wants to be there for these kids in many ways, for as long as possible, and a part that wants to go away.
Because it is the people of Mumbai who make it Bombay :)
In their Marathi, the sorted!, the obvious vada pav
The food that added to my happiness:
Chicken Tikka roll from Sigdi, Chip Butty from Theobroma, Sardar Pav Bhaji (no, it's not meant for you if you're not a street food person or if you're concerned about your immunity getting disturbed because of all the butter and the utensils used) and the gol gappe from Right Place (Amarsons)
The typical business class families have so much to learn from the middle class. So much!
It just amazes me every single time I see a confident individual around, and most of the times, the confidence is backed by the wealth inherited. Haha. I find that hilarious.
Because good food makes life better!
And so does Chai :)
"Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they're finished."
- Daniel Gilbert
PS- Happy New Year :)
Tuesday, November 24, 2015
Because it's a paradox
It is too important to appreciate silence in a world that never stops talking!
How is a human being so messed up overall?
We hurt people around us all the time, and continue to live in our bubble pointing fingers at whoever possible because we're the fastest at criticising.
You think you know people, but you don't really
Even the closest ones in your life, the degree of variation in your opinion and theirs on certain subjects will leave you nonplussed.
What goes around, comes around.
And that is the ultimate truth.
"You don't remember what happened. What you remember becomes what happened."
The hypocrisy and chauvinism in the culture is in every part of this awesome society we live in
People are shops of brands
Their lives start and end with money
Money: the problem causing problems, always.
"Not everyone will understand your journey. That's fine. It's not their journey to make sense of. It's yours."
When it isn't about finding inspiration, or making a decision,
it's about making a choice...
There's a difference.
When you know that a person is going to react in a certain way and he/she isn't going to entertain your perception, it's only going to make matters worse, then you might as well control your tongue! Why repeat the mistake?
[No, in no way am I attempting to convey that one shouldn't stand up for what one believes in, of course one must. What I've mentioned above is only trying to convey the fact that there is always more than one way to handle a situation, an alternative way, and we must remember that, at least sometimes..]
Because silence and time can both make situations better when you think nothing else can :)
Be thankful.
It makes you a more positive person overall without a doubt.
It doesn't have to be about praying to one God specifically, or praying in general..
Nothing of that sort. But be thankful. It's true that when we appreciate what we can do with everything that we're blessed with and what we have, we don't take it all for granted as much then.
Shukraguzaar is the term I prefer actually. Bohot zaroori hai shukraguzaar hona. Har us cheez ke liye jo humare parents ne, higher power/universe ne humein di hai :)
"People think you're crazy if you talk about things they don't understand."
- Elvis Presley
If you're meant to get something in a certain way and of a certain amount, you will get it irrespective of where you are and who you're with, because things beyond your control have always worked a certain way and they always will. The universe has its timing, and telepathy between people makes your faith grow in general when you just want to believe :)
"The mystery of life isn't a problem to solve, but a reality to experience."
Why on earth are the narrow-minded human beings full of confidence?
Did anyone ask for your opinion? No, it wasn't asked for, keep it to yourself please?
I absolutely cannot stand humans making judgments, passing opinions and imposing their beliefs on all the possible people around them, unnecessarily.
What the hell is wrong with our species, seriously?
Humanity comes last in their thick heads!?
"Pray for the world that blames a refugee crisis for a terrorist attack.
Pray for the world where people walking across countries for months, their only belongings upon their backs, are told they have no place to go.
Pray for the world that does not have a prayer for those who no longer have a home to defend.
For a world that is falling apart in all corners,
and not simply in the towers and cafes we find so familiar."
- Karuna Ezara Parikh
Workaholics: people who take a few seconds to recollect what they had in their last meal!
How do you know what to do when you're being told that you're on the wrong path but your gut says the opposite?
You go with your gut!?
Head vs heart: You listen to your heart, and led the head be this time.
At least you'll find out what your heart wants to know.
Can we or can we not change our own destiny?
One of the most debatable and intriguing questions still
Of course different perceptions developed from past experiences would say different things, and different theories would set some as norms
But how does one really break it down?
The world only makes you want to run away
But ensuring that the right people in your life are guiding you towards the right path, is essential.
The beliefs one has, one's outlook to life, the upbringing, and schooling of an individual
can tell so much.
Imparting knowledge and aiming to gain something from another is one thing
Feeling superior is another
When a child is pampered for the wrong reasons, he/she is well aware of the fact that from that moment onwards, he/she can take as much advantage as he/she wants of that.
I'm absolutely amazed as to how a parent(s) stays ignorant towards the impact that that has on their relationship with their other child, and then, it's a human tendency that when an individual doesn't find love at home, he/she will look for it outside, always. The importance of good parenting has been overlooked by so many so often.
"Good habits formed at youth make all the difference."
A: You don't have to do that
B: I know..
A: You can't do everything
B: I know, but I can try :)
When the people around you fail to see the purpose of it all
You're not going to take all that money with you
Having a heart and giving, not only takes conscious effort, but humanity.
"When you have more than you need, build a longer table not a higher fence."
Everyone has a 'figuring out' phase in their lives
What's most important when you're in it, is not how fast/at what speed you figure where is it that you're heading, or what is it that you want to do/give to the world
But the people who guide you during this phase, the ones who share their opinions, opinions that you seriously consider... That's what matters. Because if they aren't matching with how you always wanted to work things out in life for yourself, your head and heart won't be at sync with the whole chapter at the end of it.
"Never make fun of someone who speaks broken English. It means they know another language."
Because no matter how much you know about yourself and your choices, your likes/dislikes, people you love, you will keep getting enlightened. It's another thing to think and believe that you know yourself and your partner well, but what you're forgetting is, it's an ongoing process. You're discovering more about yourself with each passing day; your capabilities, fears, your desires.
Things are changing, and so are we.
When something manages to shake your faith for the first time in life.
You can, if you think you can!
Obsessing over Boyce Avenue covers
Alejandro, you're too damn good.
And, Bea Miller covering Ed Sheeran's song: Photograph ~ treat to the eyes and ears!
"To make something special, you just have to believe it's special."
In a conversation with an engineer;
There are raw thoughts, filtered thoughts, unfiltered thoughts, conscious thoughts, subconscious thoughts.. and probably more kinds that I will keep for another post
Irony is, the topic could've been endless
But this crazy person's point of view revolved around thoughts being made of particles and atoms/molecules, etcetera
But of course I never meant to talk about the structure, and that's when you realise that you mustn't go further as you're the one from a non-science background in the conversation. #Blah
Strange Talk - Young Hearts
#music
The Intern
#movie
You're never wrong to do the right thing!
#RobertDeNiro
"What a lot we lost when we stopped writing letters.
You can't reread a phone call."
An article on Menstrupedia
A very interesting and straight forward viewpoint in that link
and I love that this was written by a guy!
"Because psychology always affects physiology."
Astrology: also another debatable topic.
You will not understand the true meaning of it all until you really feel loss, your self.
"The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion."
How is a human being so messed up overall?
We hurt people around us all the time, and continue to live in our bubble pointing fingers at whoever possible because we're the fastest at criticising.
You think you know people, but you don't really
Even the closest ones in your life, the degree of variation in your opinion and theirs on certain subjects will leave you nonplussed.
What goes around, comes around.
And that is the ultimate truth.
"You don't remember what happened. What you remember becomes what happened."
The hypocrisy and chauvinism in the culture is in every part of this awesome society we live in
People are shops of brands
Their lives start and end with money
Money: the problem causing problems, always.
"Not everyone will understand your journey. That's fine. It's not their journey to make sense of. It's yours."
When it isn't about finding inspiration, or making a decision,
it's about making a choice...
There's a difference.
When you know that a person is going to react in a certain way and he/she isn't going to entertain your perception, it's only going to make matters worse, then you might as well control your tongue! Why repeat the mistake?
[No, in no way am I attempting to convey that one shouldn't stand up for what one believes in, of course one must. What I've mentioned above is only trying to convey the fact that there is always more than one way to handle a situation, an alternative way, and we must remember that, at least sometimes..]
Because silence and time can both make situations better when you think nothing else can :)
Be thankful.
It makes you a more positive person overall without a doubt.
It doesn't have to be about praying to one God specifically, or praying in general..
Nothing of that sort. But be thankful. It's true that when we appreciate what we can do with everything that we're blessed with and what we have, we don't take it all for granted as much then.
Shukraguzaar is the term I prefer actually. Bohot zaroori hai shukraguzaar hona. Har us cheez ke liye jo humare parents ne, higher power/universe ne humein di hai :)
"People think you're crazy if you talk about things they don't understand."
- Elvis Presley
If you're meant to get something in a certain way and of a certain amount, you will get it irrespective of where you are and who you're with, because things beyond your control have always worked a certain way and they always will. The universe has its timing, and telepathy between people makes your faith grow in general when you just want to believe :)
"The mystery of life isn't a problem to solve, but a reality to experience."
Why on earth are the narrow-minded human beings full of confidence?
Did anyone ask for your opinion? No, it wasn't asked for, keep it to yourself please?
I absolutely cannot stand humans making judgments, passing opinions and imposing their beliefs on all the possible people around them, unnecessarily.
What the hell is wrong with our species, seriously?
Humanity comes last in their thick heads!?
"Pray for the world that blames a refugee crisis for a terrorist attack.
Pray for the world where people walking across countries for months, their only belongings upon their backs, are told they have no place to go.
Pray for the world that does not have a prayer for those who no longer have a home to defend.
For a world that is falling apart in all corners,
and not simply in the towers and cafes we find so familiar."
- Karuna Ezara Parikh
Workaholics: people who take a few seconds to recollect what they had in their last meal!
How do you know what to do when you're being told that you're on the wrong path but your gut says the opposite?
You go with your gut!?
Head vs heart: You listen to your heart, and led the head be this time.
At least you'll find out what your heart wants to know.
Assumptions are the termites killing relationships: since 1990.
"The same boiling water that softens the potato hardens the egg. It's about what you're made of, not the circumstances."
One of the most debatable and intriguing questions still
Of course different perceptions developed from past experiences would say different things, and different theories would set some as norms
But how does one really break it down?
The world only makes you want to run away
But ensuring that the right people in your life are guiding you towards the right path, is essential.
The beliefs one has, one's outlook to life, the upbringing, and schooling of an individual
can tell so much.
Imparting knowledge and aiming to gain something from another is one thing
Feeling superior is another
When a child is pampered for the wrong reasons, he/she is well aware of the fact that from that moment onwards, he/she can take as much advantage as he/she wants of that.
I'm absolutely amazed as to how a parent(s) stays ignorant towards the impact that that has on their relationship with their other child, and then, it's a human tendency that when an individual doesn't find love at home, he/she will look for it outside, always. The importance of good parenting has been overlooked by so many so often.
"Good habits formed at youth make all the difference."
A: You don't have to do that
B: I know..
A: You can't do everything
B: I know, but I can try :)
When the people around you fail to see the purpose of it all
You're not going to take all that money with you
Having a heart and giving, not only takes conscious effort, but humanity.
"When you have more than you need, build a longer table not a higher fence."
Everyone has a 'figuring out' phase in their lives
What's most important when you're in it, is not how fast/at what speed you figure where is it that you're heading, or what is it that you want to do/give to the world
But the people who guide you during this phase, the ones who share their opinions, opinions that you seriously consider... That's what matters. Because if they aren't matching with how you always wanted to work things out in life for yourself, your head and heart won't be at sync with the whole chapter at the end of it.
"Never make fun of someone who speaks broken English. It means they know another language."
Because no matter how much you know about yourself and your choices, your likes/dislikes, people you love, you will keep getting enlightened. It's another thing to think and believe that you know yourself and your partner well, but what you're forgetting is, it's an ongoing process. You're discovering more about yourself with each passing day; your capabilities, fears, your desires.
Things are changing, and so are we.
When something manages to shake your faith for the first time in life.
You can, if you think you can!
Obsessing over Boyce Avenue covers
Alejandro, you're too damn good.
And, Bea Miller covering Ed Sheeran's song: Photograph ~ treat to the eyes and ears!
"To make something special, you just have to believe it's special."
In a conversation with an engineer;
There are raw thoughts, filtered thoughts, unfiltered thoughts, conscious thoughts, subconscious thoughts.. and probably more kinds that I will keep for another post
Irony is, the topic could've been endless
But this crazy person's point of view revolved around thoughts being made of particles and atoms/molecules, etcetera
But of course I never meant to talk about the structure, and that's when you realise that you mustn't go further as you're the one from a non-science background in the conversation. #Blah
Strange Talk - Young Hearts
#music
The Intern
#movie
You're never wrong to do the right thing!
#RobertDeNiro
"What a lot we lost when we stopped writing letters.
You can't reread a phone call."
An article on Menstrupedia
A very interesting and straight forward viewpoint in that link
and I love that this was written by a guy!
"Because psychology always affects physiology."
Astrology: also another debatable topic.
You will not understand the true meaning of it all until you really feel loss, your self.
"The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion."
Thursday, July 9, 2015
The unexpected.
"You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness."
Words are the most powerful things ever..
They can lift you up
or tear you apart
They can take off that weight on your shoulders
or put some extra bit on them
They can work like magic
or a disaster
They can make you want to know a human better
or can destroy the idea of ever wanting that
They can work like an ointment for old wounds caused by inhumane people who will pay for their karma
or they can make it worse if you've chosen to stoop down to that level of inhumanity
Words...
If used in the most appropriate order/sequence, manner, tone, and at an appropriate time,
They can do wonders.
They're underestimated because most of us haven't met the people who use them right, often, yet.
There is a difference between great love and right love.
"You think you shouldn't want it because you've never had it, and it scares you."
It all sums down to something
Life
The small incidents
The big instances
The coincidences
The strange and surreal moments
The tiny parts that involve how one's Sunday was
It's for YOU to make sense out of what you want to make sense and what you don't want to make sense out of
It is a choice even when we don't make a choice!
It will always be about the power of the human mind. Yes, I have mentioned that here before. But reminders are healthy when used for the right purpose :)
"Sometimes it is the people who no one imagines anything of who do the things that no one can imagine."
If only truer words had been spoken!
#TheImitationGame #Brilliance #TheExtraordinaryMinds
When something unreal happens in one's life
When one finds another, who's like a mirror
Who can not just read your thoughts, but actually makes the effort to, and wants to
Yes, I would sum it up in one word for now
And that's Serendipity
But, that doesn't cover enough, because there's more, yes, there is
Being naive is not the bad thing,
But being naive in a society full of people who are not, that's what's harmful!
It's always important to ensure to look for the good in people
But being fooled by those who are always sure of what they say and draw conclusions fast,
that's the sad part
Since you don't get anything by "proving" anyone wrong
"Caring people help others not because they expect a reward, but because it is natural to show kindness."
Being able to feel is the most wonderful thing ever.
I will probably never understand people who can't spend time alone with themselves
How on earth do you expect others to spend time with you, when you can't even spend some with your own self?
Extreme opinions, being too certain about your words/thoughts/actions
It doesn't say any good about you, it tells me that you don't believe that it's important to wonder!
"You can't do today's job with yesterday's methods and be in business tomorrow."
Humans
Some of them actually like to consider themselves inferior and not important and live their life like that, which is why they treat themselves like that throughout
Some literally need life to shake them up and tell them, What For? Breathe maybe?
The innocence in some is made to lose by others
Because life is full of flashes
Flashes of thoughts,
of memories,
of moments that are going by too fast,
of people coming and leaving,
of nature trying to communicate with you,
of stray dogs looking at you with the hope that you may feed them,
of the domestic help at your house looking at you with the expectation that you keep in mind that they are also human beings who could use a smile once in a while,
of your mom humming to old Bollywood songs...
For the gazillionth time,
Humans don't fail to amaze me.
Being that animal who has access to language and the ability to express him/her self through speech, and still has the maximum number of misunderstandings/misconceptions
What the world wants you to do:
- Stay strong and don't speak up about how much it's hurting
- Put on a good face every day and don't share your thoughts with necessarily a person of your choice
- Don't trust your gut because we won't permit you to go ahead with it
- Don't be logical because we won't be
- Your future will not be decided by you, but us
- You will not get to choose what you want to do
- Shut up and listen
- Not numb yet? We're not done with you yet.
#TemporaryDisability
"It's not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It's our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless."
You must remember to take care of your own self. Always.
The day you think you'll be taken care of, in the manner you can take care of yourself, you're very mistaken.
So often, people can't express what they really want to,
What's worse is, when their silence is taken for no expression
"It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves."
It is an extraordinarily good feeling to know that there is a stranger out there in whose life some of these words could make a difference even for a split second, especially because that was never exactly intended upon :)
Incoherence, equals, me.
In Safe Hands - Badly Drawn Boy
Fell In Love Without You [Acoustic] - Motion City Soundtrack
Unlocking The Mind - Samuel Karl Bohn
#music
(Too many tracks to list for now)
Bad experiences are like scars
Apart from having learnt from them, the ones that last would be there as a reminder
Loss.
Too much loss.
#NepalQuake #IndiaWithNepal
Prayers should never be underestimated.
Aaaah,
When you can't find the right words to not just express your thoughts, but even write them down for that matter
Surreal is the word.
When it isn't about figuring out anymore
It's not about your choice either
It's about deciding how to go about it
Life and its unpredictability!
Damn. Who knew who'd have a situation someday, one you wouldn't know how to handle well enough!
"Without pain, how could we know joy? This is an old argument in the field of thinking about suffering and its stupidity and lack of sophistication could be plumbed for centuries but suffice it to say that the existence of broccoli does not, in any way, affect the taste of chocolate."
When something unexpected happens
Like it's more than you could've asked for
But the question is, how come? And why now?
Because you are who you are because of all that life's taught you until now. Is that it?
... If only reality were to make sense all the time!
When you're sure of what you feel
But you're not sure why
At the end of the day,
Your happiness and wishes will be respected by those who have always loved you, and have always been there no matter what.
When a visit to a play school was enlightening!
My first visit, yes.
A board that lays emphasis on "why do we need plants" through imagery
~
It reminded me of the time, when the same friend (with whom I'd gone to this play school, because she had an interview), had come with me for an interview that I had in Mumbai, over three years ago
:)
A concept of short sentences/phrases on staircases for little kids
'I will empathise'
'I will respect'
'I will learn'
~
The board at the entrance that had a lot of these words ~
Integrity, Appreciation, Respect, Tolerance, Empathy
There were more..
I'd asked the receptionist lady if I could take a picture of the board,
She instantly said, no photography allowed
So, I said, this should be shown more often to adults!
She laughed as I did, but she was a sweet lady.
And I just made a note of these then.
~
It was just very pleasant to see the values that are being aimed to inculcate in the kids that go to that school :)
'Education is a process, learning is an ability'
When you try and find the image of a poster that said "Rain and tea are Siamese twins." from the place #Chaayos and you fail, and therefore, my friend must be told that Google doesn't have an answer to everything, but yes, it's another thing that I really wanted to take a picture of that poster at this place, just that it was hidden the whole time because of someone who was working on his laptop, and seemed to take breaks to wonder and freeze with his head moving here and there (no, I did not just cook that up, he actually did keep stopping whilst working)
Blaaaaah!
If an individual can inspire you to be a better person, you must make sure you learn and grasp as much as possible from this individual in the time that you have...
You never judge your parents :)
Vada Pav, Bun Bhujia and Kullad Chai
The above three with your closest friend while it rains outside :)
(The little things that matter most.)
#ItWasAGoodDay
"She said, 'I'm so afraid.' And I said, 'why?', and she said, 'Because I'm so profoundly happy. Happiness like this is frightening.' I asked her why and she said, 'They only let you be this happy if they're preparing to take something from you'."
When destiny leads you far enough in one direction,
Is it really just trying to test you how you handle it in life,
Or it does intend to give you what you want at the end of it, after all?
Words are the most powerful things ever..
They can lift you up
or tear you apart
They can take off that weight on your shoulders
or put some extra bit on them
They can work like magic
or a disaster
They can make you want to know a human better
or can destroy the idea of ever wanting that
They can work like an ointment for old wounds caused by inhumane people who will pay for their karma
or they can make it worse if you've chosen to stoop down to that level of inhumanity
Words...
If used in the most appropriate order/sequence, manner, tone, and at an appropriate time,
They can do wonders.
They're underestimated because most of us haven't met the people who use them right, often, yet.
There is a difference between great love and right love.
"You think you shouldn't want it because you've never had it, and it scares you."
It all sums down to something
Life
The small incidents
The big instances
The coincidences
The strange and surreal moments
The tiny parts that involve how one's Sunday was
It's for YOU to make sense out of what you want to make sense and what you don't want to make sense out of
It is a choice even when we don't make a choice!
It will always be about the power of the human mind. Yes, I have mentioned that here before. But reminders are healthy when used for the right purpose :)
"Sometimes it is the people who no one imagines anything of who do the things that no one can imagine."
If only truer words had been spoken!
#TheImitationGame #Brilliance #TheExtraordinaryMinds
When something unreal happens in one's life
When one finds another, who's like a mirror
Who can not just read your thoughts, but actually makes the effort to, and wants to
Yes, I would sum it up in one word for now
And that's Serendipity
But, that doesn't cover enough, because there's more, yes, there is
Being naive is not the bad thing,
But being naive in a society full of people who are not, that's what's harmful!
It's always important to ensure to look for the good in people
But being fooled by those who are always sure of what they say and draw conclusions fast,
that's the sad part
Since you don't get anything by "proving" anyone wrong
"Caring people help others not because they expect a reward, but because it is natural to show kindness."
Being able to feel is the most wonderful thing ever.
I will probably never understand people who can't spend time alone with themselves
How on earth do you expect others to spend time with you, when you can't even spend some with your own self?
Extreme opinions, being too certain about your words/thoughts/actions
It doesn't say any good about you, it tells me that you don't believe that it's important to wonder!
"You can't do today's job with yesterday's methods and be in business tomorrow."
Humans
Some of them actually like to consider themselves inferior and not important and live their life like that, which is why they treat themselves like that throughout
Some literally need life to shake them up and tell them, What For? Breathe maybe?
The innocence in some is made to lose by others
Because life is full of flashes
Flashes of thoughts,
of memories,
of moments that are going by too fast,
of people coming and leaving,
of nature trying to communicate with you,
of stray dogs looking at you with the hope that you may feed them,
of the domestic help at your house looking at you with the expectation that you keep in mind that they are also human beings who could use a smile once in a while,
of your mom humming to old Bollywood songs...
For the gazillionth time,
Humans don't fail to amaze me.
Being that animal who has access to language and the ability to express him/her self through speech, and still has the maximum number of misunderstandings/misconceptions
What the world wants you to do:
- Stay strong and don't speak up about how much it's hurting
- Put on a good face every day and don't share your thoughts with necessarily a person of your choice
- Don't trust your gut because we won't permit you to go ahead with it
- Don't be logical because we won't be
- Your future will not be decided by you, but us
- You will not get to choose what you want to do
- Shut up and listen
- Not numb yet? We're not done with you yet.
#TemporaryDisability
"It's not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It's our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless."
You must remember to take care of your own self. Always.
The day you think you'll be taken care of, in the manner you can take care of yourself, you're very mistaken.
So often, people can't express what they really want to,
What's worse is, when their silence is taken for no expression
"It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves."
It is an extraordinarily good feeling to know that there is a stranger out there in whose life some of these words could make a difference even for a split second, especially because that was never exactly intended upon :)
Incoherence, equals, me.
In Safe Hands - Badly Drawn Boy
Fell In Love Without You [Acoustic] - Motion City Soundtrack
Unlocking The Mind - Samuel Karl Bohn
#music
(Too many tracks to list for now)
Bad experiences are like scars
Apart from having learnt from them, the ones that last would be there as a reminder
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| What it says! Credits for the image to the page: The Idealist |
Loss.
Too much loss.
#NepalQuake #IndiaWithNepal
Prayers should never be underestimated.
Aaaah,
When you can't find the right words to not just express your thoughts, but even write them down for that matter
Surreal is the word.
When it isn't about figuring out anymore
It's not about your choice either
It's about deciding how to go about it
Life and its unpredictability!
Damn. Who knew who'd have a situation someday, one you wouldn't know how to handle well enough!
"Without pain, how could we know joy? This is an old argument in the field of thinking about suffering and its stupidity and lack of sophistication could be plumbed for centuries but suffice it to say that the existence of broccoli does not, in any way, affect the taste of chocolate."
When something unexpected happens
Like it's more than you could've asked for
But the question is, how come? And why now?
Because you are who you are because of all that life's taught you until now. Is that it?
... If only reality were to make sense all the time!
When you're sure of what you feel
But you're not sure why
At the end of the day,
Your happiness and wishes will be respected by those who have always loved you, and have always been there no matter what.
When a visit to a play school was enlightening!
My first visit, yes.
A board that lays emphasis on "why do we need plants" through imagery
~
It reminded me of the time, when the same friend (with whom I'd gone to this play school, because she had an interview), had come with me for an interview that I had in Mumbai, over three years ago
:)
A concept of short sentences/phrases on staircases for little kids
'I will empathise'
'I will respect'
'I will learn'
~
The board at the entrance that had a lot of these words ~
Integrity, Appreciation, Respect, Tolerance, Empathy
There were more..
I'd asked the receptionist lady if I could take a picture of the board,
She instantly said, no photography allowed
So, I said, this should be shown more often to adults!
She laughed as I did, but she was a sweet lady.
And I just made a note of these then.
~
It was just very pleasant to see the values that are being aimed to inculcate in the kids that go to that school :)
'Education is a process, learning is an ability'
When you try and find the image of a poster that said "Rain and tea are Siamese twins." from the place #Chaayos and you fail, and therefore, my friend must be told that Google doesn't have an answer to everything, but yes, it's another thing that I really wanted to take a picture of that poster at this place, just that it was hidden the whole time because of someone who was working on his laptop, and seemed to take breaks to wonder and freeze with his head moving here and there (no, I did not just cook that up, he actually did keep stopping whilst working)
Blaaaaah!
If an individual can inspire you to be a better person, you must make sure you learn and grasp as much as possible from this individual in the time that you have...
You never judge your parents :)
Vada Pav, Bun Bhujia and Kullad Chai
The above three with your closest friend while it rains outside :)
(The little things that matter most.)
#ItWasAGoodDay
"She said, 'I'm so afraid.' And I said, 'why?', and she said, 'Because I'm so profoundly happy. Happiness like this is frightening.' I asked her why and she said, 'They only let you be this happy if they're preparing to take something from you'."
When destiny leads you far enough in one direction,
Is it really just trying to test you how you handle it in life,
Or it does intend to give you what you want at the end of it, after all?
Sunday, April 12, 2015
One of those days
I wish I could tell you that things get better, but they don't
You just get to know yourself better
If only your brain knew what to tell your heart when it's being absolutely ridiculous about a situation
One that doesn't even exist, but you love to believe that it will
When you're so used to seeing someone ill...
that you don't even realize that the person is actually still going through the same physical and mental pain, and suffering!
Just because you have become accustomed to it, does not give you the right to treat the other, like it's normal and okay. Because no, it's not normal and it's not okay.
People really need to get that!
You are a big fool if you think you wouldn't get hurt just because you've been good to people all throughout your life!
"The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person - without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other." - berlin-artparasites
You know what's worse?
When you can't f**king ignore a situation completely and be all I don't give a damn and I don't care, not just because you're supposed to be better than that at dealing with it all, but because you're expected to, and not only from one person, but a whole bunch
So, when you know it's going to affect a lot more than you can see infront of you
The relationship between two individuals will always remain fragile, unless there's unfailing faith and trust on the other
And no, that isn't just a rarity
The point is that it takes forever to get there
and one shit lie to make it fall.
"I like to eat truly, drink truly, kiss truly, chat with friends truly, fall in love truly; and when you put so much into all of those things, it's natural that you come out full of scars." - Sabina (berlin-artparasites)
When a person who's compromised and sacrificed all his/her life ~ is made to feel like it's an obligation now
I mean, come on
Why are we so screwed up as a species?
An individual will only choose to believe what he/she wants to believe, irrespective of what kind of a relationship a person may share with another, irrespective of how long it took to build it, and also irrespective of what the accused has been wrongly blamed for and has chosen not to explain oneself for the same
#HarshTruth
"Just overheard two kids getting into a heated argument about iOS and Android. At their age, I was arguing about Apsara pencils being better than Natraj."
- Akshar Pathak
So, this world is cruel
And yes, you'll be hurt
One has got to be prepared for consequences irrespective of the number of good deeds done.
And please, I'm not talking about an individual's secret here AT ALL
You're not even supposed to share some thoughts with another human
Thoughts that have been piled up inside your system since a while
Because no, there is no guarantee that your trust will not be broken, no matter how faithful you are to the people in your life
When your trust is shaken, it's done
The part that actually sucks about this entire scenario, is that, you will be hurt
and you will get hurt, no matter what.
I had a dream I was dying
But I found nobody there
And if one last night is all that we've been given
Let's live it like we care
#Lyrics
Sucks
When people sitting across the world can get you better than the ones sitting next to you
The human mind never ceases to amaze me
It sucks how a person is made to go through so much of mental trauma because of absolute unnecessary bullshit
And what's worse is, the person causing this damage is unaware of it
Yes, I do remember mentioning this much much earlier in one of my posts
But since humans have a tendency to repeat their shitty acts, I'm just left with no choice but to repeat myself with my words here
When you've realized that you've already met the most selfish, the most immature individual on earth, who does not have the brain to even understand what degree of selfishness has been reached
When such humans are willing to stoop down to a level, that will jeopardize people's relationships
I hate how people overlook the fact that what they want and like is not the same as the person sitting next to them
No, I do not like what you like
My priorities are different
And when your priorities are different, you're willing to compromise on a lot more than you think!
It's so damn important to remember to not let any of it consume you
Not even your passion
Because you can't afford to lose yourself in the process of it all
Since that's the worst thing that can happen to you!
"It's always surprising to me how many young women think they have to be perfect. I rarely meet a young man who doesn't think he already is."
Sometimes, silence from the other person is better
The more you dig up the dirt
The more exposed you'd be
and the probability of you getting hurt might increase
"I'm trying to beef up my skills. There's still too much getting lost between my head and the page. There are a lot of emotions that are very close to each other. I want to be able to show the difference between nervous and tense. Sad and depressed. Thoughtful and wistful."
~ Words taken from another post of Humans of New York! #BecauseICanRelateVeryMuch
You'd always wish that things had turned out differently
Different than what you thought
Different than the expected
Different than how someone else had predicted it all
Just different
Even if not on a different tangent, but atleast different to a degree that it can be called different.
The only regret in life is ~ 'giving considerable thought to inconsiderate people.'
"The difference between fiction and reality? Fiction has to make sense."
"The right and the easy thing are never the same."
"Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom."
One Last Night - Vaults
Blame It On Me - George Ezra
Love Me Like You Do - Ellie Goulding
Until The End - Dirty South
1998 - Chet Faker
Closer - Travis
Romance is Dead - Paloma Faith
Budapest - George Ezra
#music
Even if you know what's coming, you're never prepared for how it feels.
You just get to know yourself better
If only your brain knew what to tell your heart when it's being absolutely ridiculous about a situation
One that doesn't even exist, but you love to believe that it will
When you're so used to seeing someone ill...
that you don't even realize that the person is actually still going through the same physical and mental pain, and suffering!
Just because you have become accustomed to it, does not give you the right to treat the other, like it's normal and okay. Because no, it's not normal and it's not okay.
People really need to get that!
You are a big fool if you think you wouldn't get hurt just because you've been good to people all throughout your life!
"The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person - without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other." - berlin-artparasites
You know what's worse?
When you can't f**king ignore a situation completely and be all I don't give a damn and I don't care, not just because you're supposed to be better than that at dealing with it all, but because you're expected to, and not only from one person, but a whole bunch
So, when you know it's going to affect a lot more than you can see infront of you
The relationship between two individuals will always remain fragile, unless there's unfailing faith and trust on the other
And no, that isn't just a rarity
The point is that it takes forever to get there
and one shit lie to make it fall.
"I like to eat truly, drink truly, kiss truly, chat with friends truly, fall in love truly; and when you put so much into all of those things, it's natural that you come out full of scars." - Sabina (berlin-artparasites)
When a person who's compromised and sacrificed all his/her life ~ is made to feel like it's an obligation now
I mean, come on
Why are we so screwed up as a species?
An individual will only choose to believe what he/she wants to believe, irrespective of what kind of a relationship a person may share with another, irrespective of how long it took to build it, and also irrespective of what the accused has been wrongly blamed for and has chosen not to explain oneself for the same
#HarshTruth
"Just overheard two kids getting into a heated argument about iOS and Android. At their age, I was arguing about Apsara pencils being better than Natraj."
- Akshar Pathak
So, this world is cruel
And yes, you'll be hurt
One has got to be prepared for consequences irrespective of the number of good deeds done.
Serendipity :)
[might have to pay some royalty for the usage of that word, since it's not my original thought. Haha.]
"It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you don't stop."
[might have to pay some royalty for the usage of that word, since it's not my original thought. Haha.]
"It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you don't stop."
And maybe you're not supposed to talk to another human being at all, sometimes
You'd probably kill yourself in the process, but yeah, you're still expected to keep it all inside you and die with itAnd please, I'm not talking about an individual's secret here AT ALL
You're not even supposed to share some thoughts with another human
Thoughts that have been piled up inside your system since a while
Because no, there is no guarantee that your trust will not be broken, no matter how faithful you are to the people in your life
When your trust is shaken, it's done
The part that actually sucks about this entire scenario, is that, you will be hurt
and you will get hurt, no matter what.
I had a dream I was dying
But I found nobody there
And if one last night is all that we've been given
Let's live it like we care
#Lyrics
Sucks
When people sitting across the world can get you better than the ones sitting next to you
The human mind never ceases to amaze me
It sucks how a person is made to go through so much of mental trauma because of absolute unnecessary bullshit
And what's worse is, the person causing this damage is unaware of it
Yes, I do remember mentioning this much much earlier in one of my posts
But since humans have a tendency to repeat their shitty acts, I'm just left with no choice but to repeat myself with my words here
When you've realized that you've already met the most selfish, the most immature individual on earth, who does not have the brain to even understand what degree of selfishness has been reached
When such humans are willing to stoop down to a level, that will jeopardize people's relationships
I hate how people overlook the fact that what they want and like is not the same as the person sitting next to them
No, I do not like what you like
My priorities are different
And when your priorities are different, you're willing to compromise on a lot more than you think!
It's so damn important to remember to not let any of it consume you
Not even your passion
Because you can't afford to lose yourself in the process of it all
Since that's the worst thing that can happen to you!
"It's always surprising to me how many young women think they have to be perfect. I rarely meet a young man who doesn't think he already is."
Sometimes, silence from the other person is better
The more you dig up the dirt
The more exposed you'd be
and the probability of you getting hurt might increase
"I'm trying to beef up my skills. There's still too much getting lost between my head and the page. There are a lot of emotions that are very close to each other. I want to be able to show the difference between nervous and tense. Sad and depressed. Thoughtful and wistful."
~ Words taken from another post of Humans of New York! #BecauseICanRelateVeryMuch
You'd always wish that things had turned out differently
Different than what you thought
Different than the expected
Different than how someone else had predicted it all
Just different
Even if not on a different tangent, but atleast different to a degree that it can be called different.
The only regret in life is ~ 'giving considerable thought to inconsiderate people.'
"The difference between fiction and reality? Fiction has to make sense."
"The right and the easy thing are never the same."
"Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom."
One Last Night - Vaults
Blame It On Me - George Ezra
Love Me Like You Do - Ellie Goulding
Until The End - Dirty South
1998 - Chet Faker
Closer - Travis
Romance is Dead - Paloma Faith
Budapest - George Ezra
#music
Even if you know what's coming, you're never prepared for how it feels.
Saturday, March 28, 2015
Why so insensitive?
So,
Old Bollywood songs playing on the radio actually are capable of getting the weariness off somehow :)
The worst part about being strong is that people choose to not ask if you're hurt.
"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with."
"You can't win a fight against someone's perception."
We are known for insensitivity, the human species
Words you read here and there, in another country/city, on a bus ride, or wherever else walking, and can only relate to one thing ~
Lawnmower
(A scene from the movie, Easy A
"I borrowed my neighbour's mower. I came right over."
Joey's Pizza
(Duh. Joey. Friends. Enough said.)
New Montgomery
(A Cinderella Story. Mrs. Montogomery. The evil stepmother.)
Coventry Motor Inn
(Duh again. The tiny city I lived in, once upon a time)
So many things that go unnoticed
and because humans don't prefer to think
No one ends up bothering
Casa Sanchez
~ a restaurant in L.A. which has the most awesome cheesecake ever!
It honestly reminded me of the scene from Friends when Chandler and Rachel hog on a whole cheesecake together!
Maturity
does not
have anything
to do with
Age
or
Time.
It comes with
experience,
exposure,
and willingness to think beyond the obvious.
Bas.
Uncertainty has its consequences
That feeling of not knowing, assuming some parts, leaving some to destiny, and knowing some
Somewhere along that process of reaching the finish line, there are consequences of your choices and decisions made, some that go unnoticed all together, and some that are visible clearly even later
"I can't adult today
Please don't make me adult"
*please picture a lazy pug lying around, while reading those two lines above*
When the temperature of your room is just about perfect for the dairy milk silk bar to be at its best
Ides of March
How that always brings back "Et tu Brute" in my head
Some songs will always brink back that one time in your life/one person/one situation/a group of people
No matter what you do, that memory ain't going anywhere
Rape. Rape. Rape.
What's beyond sad is that the world is getting used to hearing about it so often, that one is starting to overlook the seriousness of the damn cause.
"Rapists rape people, not outfits."
"Imagine if men were as disgusted with rape as they are with periods."
Patience
Nope, you just want the other person to have enough
Not yourself
#Irony
"It can be tough for a woman in the construction industry. I'm in charge of hiring the subcontractors - electricians, carpenters, roofers, plumbers. Those jobs are overwhelmingly male, so a lot of them don't like taking orders from a woman. They'll say 'yes' when I tell them to do something, but then they'll slack off when I'm not watching. So I've got to stay on point. I have to demonstrate that I know enough about all of their jobs to know when something isn't being done correctly."
- Words taken from another post of Humans of New York, because I can relate to this too much!
I miss being younger.
Life's become too serious. Reality, big decisions.
Makes me want escapism more.
I want the time when the matron used to say it's time to get up, and when we knew it's prep time, and when it's sports time, and then we're supposed to finish our freaking breakfast in 15 minutes.
I miss that precision.
When your morning begins with a long email from a wonderful soul :D
Love - Mike Cavanaugh
Carry On - Fun
All I Need Is Your Love - Tonic
Lazarus - Porcupine Tree
#PaidAttentionToTheMusicMoreThanTheLyricsAfterALongTime
Ah, humans. Perpetually forming conclusions after hearing one side of every story. Lack of perceptiveness. Insensitivity. Zero courage to point fingers at yourself. The hatred for the species only grows.
The Giver
~ that thought provoking movie that shows a different side of the world, one that doesn't exist, yet
Whiplash
~ the word for the movie is crazy, since your passion starts to consume you and you don't even realize it, but brilliant acting
#Movies
(benefits of the longest flight)
"A word of encouragement after failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success."
No, you can't do whatever you feel like. Because being yourself a one hundred percent is not what's acceptable to people who don't matter in your life. Yes, you read that just right.
So much for irony, eh?
"We're so busy watching out for what's just ahead of us
that we don't take time to enjoy where we are."
- Calvin and Hobbes
The words ~
right, wrong, happiness, satisfaction
~ are all too subjective to be narrowed down to one single definition
Everyone has their own and they're all different to some degree!
It's not hard to say sorry
It takes just a moment of realization to be apologetic
But ofcourse if you're okay with your ego taking over, I have no words for you
Sucks how people value their ego more than their relationship with an individual
Like I'd mentioned in the last post, about Alan Powell's inspiring words in that interview
One really needs to hear that for reassurance and be themselves instead of being told they're over-thinking or some crap of that sort!
Your lack of faith in me is disturbing.
- Me.
Old Bollywood songs playing on the radio actually are capable of getting the weariness off somehow :)
The worst part about being strong is that people choose to not ask if you're hurt.
"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with."
~ Choose wisely!
Just because you know you can afford to take it out on some people, doesn't mean you do it every damn time you have to. There's a threshold of the mind, for that person, hearing you say it all in anger, too.
Just because you know you can afford to take it out on some people, doesn't mean you do it every damn time you have to. There's a threshold of the mind, for that person, hearing you say it all in anger, too.
"You can't win a fight against someone's perception."
We are known for insensitivity, the human species
Words you read here and there, in another country/city, on a bus ride, or wherever else walking, and can only relate to one thing ~
Lawnmower
(A scene from the movie, Easy A
"I borrowed my neighbour's mower. I came right over."
Joey's Pizza
(Duh. Joey. Friends. Enough said.)
New Montgomery
(A Cinderella Story. Mrs. Montogomery. The evil stepmother.)
Coventry Motor Inn
(Duh again. The tiny city I lived in, once upon a time)
So many things that go unnoticed
and because humans don't prefer to think
No one ends up bothering
Casa Sanchez
~ a restaurant in L.A. which has the most awesome cheesecake ever!
It honestly reminded me of the scene from Friends when Chandler and Rachel hog on a whole cheesecake together!
Maturity
does not
have anything
to do with
Age
or
Time.
It comes with
experience,
exposure,
and willingness to think beyond the obvious.
Bas.
Uncertainty has its consequences
That feeling of not knowing, assuming some parts, leaving some to destiny, and knowing some
Somewhere along that process of reaching the finish line, there are consequences of your choices and decisions made, some that go unnoticed all together, and some that are visible clearly even later
"I can't adult today
Please don't make me adult"
*please picture a lazy pug lying around, while reading those two lines above*
When the temperature of your room is just about perfect for the dairy milk silk bar to be at its best
Ides of March
How that always brings back "Et tu Brute" in my head
Some songs will always brink back that one time in your life/one person/one situation/a group of people
No matter what you do, that memory ain't going anywhere
Rape. Rape. Rape.
What's beyond sad is that the world is getting used to hearing about it so often, that one is starting to overlook the seriousness of the damn cause.
"Rapists rape people, not outfits."
"Imagine if men were as disgusted with rape as they are with periods."
Patience
Nope, you just want the other person to have enough
Not yourself
#Irony
"It can be tough for a woman in the construction industry. I'm in charge of hiring the subcontractors - electricians, carpenters, roofers, plumbers. Those jobs are overwhelmingly male, so a lot of them don't like taking orders from a woman. They'll say 'yes' when I tell them to do something, but then they'll slack off when I'm not watching. So I've got to stay on point. I have to demonstrate that I know enough about all of their jobs to know when something isn't being done correctly."
- Words taken from another post of Humans of New York, because I can relate to this too much!
I miss being younger.
Life's become too serious. Reality, big decisions.
Makes me want escapism more.
I want the time when the matron used to say it's time to get up, and when we knew it's prep time, and when it's sports time, and then we're supposed to finish our freaking breakfast in 15 minutes.
I miss that precision.
When your morning begins with a long email from a wonderful soul :D
Love - Mike Cavanaugh
Carry On - Fun
All I Need Is Your Love - Tonic
Lazarus - Porcupine Tree
#PaidAttentionToTheMusicMoreThanTheLyricsAfterALongTime
Ah, humans. Perpetually forming conclusions after hearing one side of every story. Lack of perceptiveness. Insensitivity. Zero courage to point fingers at yourself. The hatred for the species only grows.
The Giver
~ that thought provoking movie that shows a different side of the world, one that doesn't exist, yet
Whiplash
~ the word for the movie is crazy, since your passion starts to consume you and you don't even realize it, but brilliant acting
#Movies
(benefits of the longest flight)
"A word of encouragement after failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success."
No, you can't do whatever you feel like. Because being yourself a one hundred percent is not what's acceptable to people who don't matter in your life. Yes, you read that just right.
So much for irony, eh?
"We're so busy watching out for what's just ahead of us
that we don't take time to enjoy where we are."
- Calvin and Hobbes
The words ~
right, wrong, happiness, satisfaction
~ are all too subjective to be narrowed down to one single definition
Everyone has their own and they're all different to some degree!
It's not hard to say sorry
It takes just a moment of realization to be apologetic
But ofcourse if you're okay with your ego taking over, I have no words for you
Sucks how people value their ego more than their relationship with an individual
Like I'd mentioned in the last post, about Alan Powell's inspiring words in that interview
One really needs to hear that for reassurance and be themselves instead of being told they're over-thinking or some crap of that sort!
Your lack of faith in me is disturbing.
- Me.
Monday, February 9, 2015
Your own mind plays games with you.
"To say a person is a happy person or an unhappy person is ridiculous. We are a thousand different kinds of people every hour."
Fresh starts
I don't think they can always do the trick
On some days, the only fairy tales that come true are the ones you see in movies, probably your favourite ones, the kinds you've seen over and over again
You're judging a book by its cover
By just looking at a situation, or noticing someone perform poorly for the first time; by merely predicting how a company is going to perform after having been a part of the company for the shortest while (probably days)
- These don't depict that you have a fairly good grasping power! It shows that you were reckless enough to not want to get into the depth of any of it, and therefore you jumped to a conclusion, once again, and failed yourself in the mind of someone observing you.
"I'm terrible at journaling. But I do it anyway, because I think that maybe one day I'll write something that I didn't know before, and suddenly it will all make sense."
- Words taken from a wonderful post of Humans of New York.
Sometimes, you don't get to choose things in your life
They're choices that have been made for you by someone else
This someone could be someone you know, could also be someone you don't (if at all that is possible), and then it could be an energy too (the faith you have in things that make your subconscious choose for the conscious you, you still staying oblivious to what the f**k happened)
It sucks that you're not fully aware of all the choices that are being made for you, in your life, sometimes.
You're hurt and you only wish to work things your way
But ofcourse that's not possible
Life would just be an easy path to walk on then
We'd forget it's something one aims to come out of, alive
Unexpected things always happen
Because if one could predict every single thing that's going to happen
Then what's the fun in that
Or may I say, what's the point if all the troubles that are going to come your way were already seen and acted upon before needed
(The things beyond control of the ordinary
and subjectivity in the definition of the word 'trouble')
A clip from the movie: 'The Song'
The movie I saw on the flight
(yes, not 'a' flight, 'the' flight, since the journey had taken a U turn)
The disappointment when you can't find a movie online, but I loved this part (the video)!
The music. And then Alan Powell's inspiring words in general, in an interview (taken by Conn Jackson)
It sucks that every individual has to go through so much in one lifetime
Emotions, feelings, humanity
Man, they sure can mess with one's world
And on that note,
"There is a price to be paid for every increase in consciousness. We cannot be more sensitive to pleasure without being more sensitive to pain."
Therapy.
Everyone needs it. Often.
Whether it's Uncle Chips and your favourite chocolate
Or listening to your favourite song on repeat
Or sleep
Or smoke a cigarette
Cry in the bathroom
Scream
Or a punching bag
Or listening to a kind of song, one plays on loud
Or going through old albums/diaries/stuff
Or vent to a human (in all probability your friend who's always been there)
When you listen to songs like
I Should Go by Levi Kreis
after really, really long...
When you can't be yourself with the people in your life, and cry or smile whenever you feel like, what the f**k is the point?
When a domestic servant at your house suddenly starts crying and pours her heart out to you
You feel a weight, but at the same time, there is a tiny amount of positivity, that you're there to make her say it all out so she could feel better
But you also feel helpless to an extent, although you did discuss the matter further, and would aim to help as much as possible
When something unusual happens
and you're unable to handle it
You're not sure how
but you're not able to breathe
You're getting choked, but oddly, you're keeping at it out of choice
When in a conversation with a friend,
and he wondered as to why he wasted all this time planning a room design and putting so much into it, when he could've easily hired a professional to do the same,
I figured, sometimes, you have to derive sense out of it
The very fact that he did put all that effort, and the room is done now, every time he'd look at a painting or a pattern, he'd be reminded of how he did it all by himself, and at that moment of realization, if he gets happiness by being able to relate to so much of it in that room, it's been worth it...
When someone reassures you more than the times you needed it
And,
"I feel very strongly that I'm surrounded by other realities. We don't really go that far into people, even when we think we do. We hardly ever go in and bring them out. We just stand at the jaws of the cave, and strike a match, and ask quickly if anybody's there."
"Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never a weakness."
"And in all those cruel, difficult moments I encountered, I always wished I would be a little kid again. Not because everything was easier when you were a child; not because you weren't responsible for anything including yourself; not even because life was much more simple, but simply because you had all the rights to scream, to shout, to cry your heart out whenever you felt like it without having anyone blaming you for not being strong:
You can wail the moment you feel that you miss or need anyone. You can scream when you're afraid. You can cry when you're left alone. You have all the rights to weep when it's your first day at school and you're alone and terrified from this sudden change that took place in your life.
If you're a kid, you won't have to fake a smile when your insides are burning just to seem strong and fine! Back then, you had all these rights - until they started telling you that you're a 'grown-up' now and you shouldn't be crying; that you should be strong and responsible; that you might be dying from inside but still you must manage to smile.
I just don't mind losing that 'grown-up' title if that's all I have to lose in order to regain my childhood life and my childhood rights again. I just wish it were possible. Because having to act as a grown up is very painful sometimes."
- Credits to the page: 'berlin-artparasites' for the above quotes.
(The most relatable page on social media ever!)
Angels Walk Among Us - Anathema
Sugar - Maroon 5
Holocene - Bon Iver
Instant Crush ft. Julian Casablancas - Daft Punk
Waiting - The Devlins
Bruises - Train
Speeding Cars - Imogen Heap
#Music
Fresh starts
I don't think they can always do the trick
On some days, the only fairy tales that come true are the ones you see in movies, probably your favourite ones, the kinds you've seen over and over again
You're judging a book by its cover
By just looking at a situation, or noticing someone perform poorly for the first time; by merely predicting how a company is going to perform after having been a part of the company for the shortest while (probably days)
- These don't depict that you have a fairly good grasping power! It shows that you were reckless enough to not want to get into the depth of any of it, and therefore you jumped to a conclusion, once again, and failed yourself in the mind of someone observing you.
"I'm terrible at journaling. But I do it anyway, because I think that maybe one day I'll write something that I didn't know before, and suddenly it will all make sense."
- Words taken from a wonderful post of Humans of New York.
Sometimes, you don't get to choose things in your life
They're choices that have been made for you by someone else
This someone could be someone you know, could also be someone you don't (if at all that is possible), and then it could be an energy too (the faith you have in things that make your subconscious choose for the conscious you, you still staying oblivious to what the f**k happened)
It sucks that you're not fully aware of all the choices that are being made for you, in your life, sometimes.
You're hurt and you only wish to work things your way
But ofcourse that's not possible
Life would just be an easy path to walk on then
We'd forget it's something one aims to come out of, alive
Unexpected things always happen
Because if one could predict every single thing that's going to happen
Then what's the fun in that
Or may I say, what's the point if all the troubles that are going to come your way were already seen and acted upon before needed
(The things beyond control of the ordinary
and subjectivity in the definition of the word 'trouble')
A clip from the movie: 'The Song'
The movie I saw on the flight
(yes, not 'a' flight, 'the' flight, since the journey had taken a U turn)
The disappointment when you can't find a movie online, but I loved this part (the video)!
The music. And then Alan Powell's inspiring words in general, in an interview (taken by Conn Jackson)
It sucks that every individual has to go through so much in one lifetime
Emotions, feelings, humanity
Man, they sure can mess with one's world
And on that note,
"There is a price to be paid for every increase in consciousness. We cannot be more sensitive to pleasure without being more sensitive to pain."
Therapy.
Everyone needs it. Often.
Whether it's Uncle Chips and your favourite chocolate
Or listening to your favourite song on repeat
Or sleep
Or smoke a cigarette
Cry in the bathroom
Scream
Or a punching bag
Or listening to a kind of song, one plays on loud
Or going through old albums/diaries/stuff
Or vent to a human (in all probability your friend who's always been there)
When you listen to songs like
I Should Go by Levi Kreis
after really, really long...
When you can't be yourself with the people in your life, and cry or smile whenever you feel like, what the f**k is the point?
When a domestic servant at your house suddenly starts crying and pours her heart out to you
You feel a weight, but at the same time, there is a tiny amount of positivity, that you're there to make her say it all out so she could feel better
But you also feel helpless to an extent, although you did discuss the matter further, and would aim to help as much as possible
When something unusual happens
and you're unable to handle it
You're not sure how
but you're not able to breathe
You're getting choked, but oddly, you're keeping at it out of choice
When in a conversation with a friend,
and he wondered as to why he wasted all this time planning a room design and putting so much into it, when he could've easily hired a professional to do the same,
I figured, sometimes, you have to derive sense out of it
The very fact that he did put all that effort, and the room is done now, every time he'd look at a painting or a pattern, he'd be reminded of how he did it all by himself, and at that moment of realization, if he gets happiness by being able to relate to so much of it in that room, it's been worth it...
When someone reassures you more than the times you needed it
And,
"I feel very strongly that I'm surrounded by other realities. We don't really go that far into people, even when we think we do. We hardly ever go in and bring them out. We just stand at the jaws of the cave, and strike a match, and ask quickly if anybody's there."
"Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never a weakness."
"And in all those cruel, difficult moments I encountered, I always wished I would be a little kid again. Not because everything was easier when you were a child; not because you weren't responsible for anything including yourself; not even because life was much more simple, but simply because you had all the rights to scream, to shout, to cry your heart out whenever you felt like it without having anyone blaming you for not being strong:
You can wail the moment you feel that you miss or need anyone. You can scream when you're afraid. You can cry when you're left alone. You have all the rights to weep when it's your first day at school and you're alone and terrified from this sudden change that took place in your life.
If you're a kid, you won't have to fake a smile when your insides are burning just to seem strong and fine! Back then, you had all these rights - until they started telling you that you're a 'grown-up' now and you shouldn't be crying; that you should be strong and responsible; that you might be dying from inside but still you must manage to smile.
I just don't mind losing that 'grown-up' title if that's all I have to lose in order to regain my childhood life and my childhood rights again. I just wish it were possible. Because having to act as a grown up is very painful sometimes."
- Credits to the page: 'berlin-artparasites' for the above quotes.
(The most relatable page on social media ever!)
Angels Walk Among Us - Anathema
Sugar - Maroon 5
Holocene - Bon Iver
Instant Crush ft. Julian Casablancas - Daft Punk
Waiting - The Devlins
Bruises - Train
Speeding Cars - Imogen Heap
#Music
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